Working at a start up is hard. Working with partners in a start up is harder. Working on your own start up is the hardest.
The number one reason why I stopped going the “self employed” route because it becomes your own sweat shop. Being self employed usually means…
You are not special because you’re scared to be.
You are cheap because you need to feed yourself.
You can’t compete because you are chronically depressed.
You can’t sell because you have no idea what the fuck you are selling.
The number two reason why I stopped going the “self employed” route because it shows that…
You refuse to put down your ego to ask someone for work.
You refuse to put down your ego to look for a mentor.
Your life is a mess.
You run your life like you run your business – no processes involved.
“If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t.” – Fight Club
So, the most frequently asked question by almost everyone in any topic is “How do I ensure I hit my goals in *insert section in life*?”
The more pertinent question is, “Have you set your sights on really achieving those goals?”
It’s not so much that we want to know how to achieve those goals. It’s usually the sense of listening to someone telling us how to makes us feel that we have somewhat worked on those goals. Even flipping through a fitness magazine or purchasing a yoga mat stimulates our basal ganglia to get us excited – but nothing ever happens after that high.
Thus, if you want to achieve your goals – make them into daily habits.
Not weekly or weekend or monthly habits. Daily. That is the only way you can get closer towards your goals.
- Want to run a marathon by the end of the year? Exercise 15 minutes a day.
- Want a happier relationship so that your home isn’t a minefield? Chat to your significant other every day about ideas and creating things together.
- Want better or more business leads? Talk to 2-3 people daily about what you do or connect with new prospects and form relationships or work on your personal brand on different platforms.
- Want to save money? Bring your own lunch and snacks to work.
- Need to find your passion? Start something on the platform that your hobby is suited for.
- Want more friends? Look at Eventbrite, Peatix and Meetup.com for events to go to.
This year, I have worked on:
- Career: Got laser focused on my strengths and weaknesses. Blending it down to something tactical for people to swallow and pitch my skills.
- Spiritual: I love being a minimalist and that seems pretty trivial. However, building a support community and talking to other daily have increase my personal branding (and self confidence) which has opened more doors to other areas of life.
- Family: Building better relationships with my parents have helped them let go of the helicopter parenting complex most Asian parents have.
- Health: Intermittent fasting daily for 15-17 hours a day + 15 minutes of intense body circuits help me make sure my blood circulation is awesome enough to keep me confident to face the day.
- Finances: Being creative in social outings and food choices have helped me save more than expected per month.
- Social: Working on communicating with friends daily and watching my interpersonal skills have brought in more friendships than I ever had in the last 5 years.
Your passion needs to drive your inner motivation to get your goals. Your goals are inherently habits to cultivate a better version of yourself.
Fake it until you make it? No.
Your daily habits aren’t fake, but they are driving you towards the better version of yourself. Are you really faking being the better version of yourself? No. Because if you turn your goals into habits, you already are a better version of yourself, every single day.
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